withnews withnews withnews Collect evidence that "all lies are crushed" and accuse "bullying detective" of rehabilitation of the perpetrator
"You can take a break from school"
When it cannot be resolved in school, collect LINE messages, solidify the evidence, and point it at the perpetrator. What is the activity of "bullying detective"? * The photo is an image = Getty ImagesLaughter Shimomura Juku
Bullying #withyoutable of contents
Keigo Oyamada, who was in charge of music at the opening ceremony of the Tokyo Olympics, was forced to resign because he was blamed for "bullying" in past interviews. The problem of bullying that hasn't disappeared yet. Recently, it is said that the spread of SNS has made it even more vicious and sophisticated. When it is not possible to solve the problem at school, it is Mr. Yasuhisa Abe (Abe Hirotaka) who continues his activities to help him. He collects LINE messages, solidifies the evidence and points it at the perpetrators. Mr. Abe, who has helped many children despite being criticized, talked to Nana Takamatsu at the online salon "Adult Social Studies Tour" event.
What is a "bullying detective" whose job is to collect evidence?
Yasunao Abe is the first private detective in Japan to undertake a bullying investigation. Since he was tasked with collecting evidence of bullying from the victim's parents in 2004, he has received damage consultations from 5,800 people and has used detective techniques to lead to convergence in 380 cases. He founded the NPO Youth Guardian in 2014 to save as many children as possible, and conducts detective investigations free of charge if deemed necessary. When it comes to resolving bullying, telephone consultation desks are well known, but it has been pointed out that just listening to the story made me feel lighter, but it did not lead to a fundamental solution to the problem. The existence of "bullying detectives" who are close to the victims and collect evidence of bullying to solve the problem is a great relief for children. Mr. Yasunao Abe: "I was probably the first person in Japan to tell me to record for the purpose of collecting evidence because of the problem of bullying. I got a lot of criticism and it burned up here and there. However, even if I consulted with my teacher If it doesn't work, it's often impossible to save the victim without the intervention of a third party, so if you need a tool for recording, you can rent it out for free and make it for that child. If I have to, I'll make one, and I'll look into relationships and find a child who can give me a bullying testimony. "
Mr. Yasunao Abe who appeared in the online salon "Adult Social Studies Tour"Submit scientific evidence to school
Recently, there are many bullies triggered by SNS. For example, a Twitter account is created, and bad words of students and teachers are written there. In the school, the search for the criminal who created the account began, and there was a case where a completely innocent student was bullied by rumors that he was the criminal. Mr. Abe: "In this case, I consulted at a fairly early stage, so I pulled out all of it because there may be access logs left in communication devices such as modems, routers, smartphones and PCs. I submitted scientific evidence to the school that the victim did not access the Twitter account, and there were children who spread rumors that this student must have done it on LINE etc. I collected the evidence. " Interestingly, Mr. Abe collects evidence not as a person in the field of education but as a private detective, so if necessary, he may buy LINE exchanges from the children involved for money. Mr. Abe: "That's what you mean by LINE. I don't always buy it with money, but I sometimes collect it in that way. Children with weak relationships may be given immediately, and with my parents. We may continue to persuade the person to give it out. We would like you to collect all such evidence and submit it to the school, discuss it with your parents, and make an announcement to restore the honor of the victim. I will sue. ”The reason why it is so difficult to resolve bullying that you have to collect evidence is that bullying is becoming worse due to the spread of SNS. Mr. Abe: "In the past bullying, the perpetrators were only talking to the victims at best, but recently, if you use the Instagram story, you should think carefully about the destruction of evidence that it will disappear in 24 hours. I'm doing it. I can say that it's getting worse with the wisdom that if something goes wrong, it's okay if you don't admit it at all. "
"I would like you to collect all the evidence and submit it to the school, discuss it with your parents, and make an announcement to restore the honor of the victimized child." (Yasuhisa Abe) * The photo is an image. = Getty ImagesMany children are involved in bullying
According to a survey by the National Institute for Educational Policy Research, only 8.6% of children said they had never been bullied. Conversely, 14.6% of children said they never bullied, and most of them said they had been or had been bullied. In addition, 33.2% of children said they had not been bullied by violence at all. 52.8% of the children answered that they did not bully violence at all. It is shocking to say that half of the children have done violence alone. On the other hand, parents' perceptions of the actual situation of bullying are weak. According to a survey of parents, 20% of parents feel that their children have been victims of bullying, which is considerably lower than the children's feelings mentioned above. Seriously, only 2.3% of parents feel that their children have been the perpetrators of bullying, which is significantly lower than the 14.6% that children are aware of. Most parents can't even imagine their child being the perpetrator of bullying. According to Mr. Abe, the perpetrators of bullying have certain characteristics. Mr. Abe: "One of the characteristics of the children who are the perpetrators is that they have a habit of easily having a dominant human relationship. For example, the caste system of human relationships in the school is 1 army or 2 army. In terms of the family environment, there is a tendency to want to have a hierarchical relationship in human relations because of the parents' speech. Judging people based on whether their annual income is high or low, and I feel that those parents' values also affect their children. The problem of children's bullying is the adult's "mirror". "
"The problem of bullying in children is the" mirror "of adults." (Yasuhisa Abe) * The photo is an image = Getty ImagesEducate perpetrators for rehabilitation
Mr. Abe is also paying close attention to Mr. Keigo Oyamada, who resigned from the music charge at the opening ceremony of the Tokyo Olympics because he was "proud of bullying" in an interview with a music magazine in the past. The perpetrator of bullying repeats criminal acts against the victim, and even though the other party is hunting down to the point of being aware of death, he talks to the children around him as a heroic story and has a sense of play. It seems that there are a lot of cases where I talked about it and did not reflect on it. Mr. Abe: "I wonder if Mr. Oyamada's case was bad in various ways, and another thing I think is that when thinking about how to deal with bullying, the victims are the only focus, but to the perpetrators. I wasn't told much about what kind of education should be done, and it may be the result of the road to rehabilitation being neglected. It may not have been. I think it is necessary to create a social mechanism, including a therapeutic approach. "
Reflection that exposes emotions
What are some ways for the perpetrators of bullying to really reflect and stop bullying? Mr. Abe said that he would never be settled by a makeshift settlement on the spot, and he told me about his daily efforts. Mr. Abe: "The perpetrators usually claim their legitimacy because they have been killed, and they talk with their peers to give evidence of lies, but I crush them all. After showing that the lie doesn't work, I feel like I'll take the time to thoroughly talk about whether the child really wants to reflect or apologize. I really want to apologize to the teachers. I may not be able to sleep until I mature, but I'm telling you to do your best. "" On top of that, when I reach the peak of my desire to apologize, I finally hold an apology party. In many cases, we are crying each other for some time. Ask the perpetrators to talk about why they did something wrong, and ask the victims to talk about their unforgivable feelings. By the way, I will talk about whether we can be together in the same space in the future. It is necessary to organize such time and feelings. "
Original by Yasunao Abe / Drawing by Katsumasa Enokiya "Ijime Detective" (Shogakukan)You can take a rest, you can change your school
As I listened to Mr. Abe's story, I realized again that it would take a considerable amount of energy to resolve bullying. The mental burden on the victims, such as collecting evidence and reconciliation meetings, is also great. What kind of message should I send to the victims? Mr. Abe: "My NPO's declaration tells me that if it's hard enough to die, I don't have to go to school. Some children don't have a good image when it comes to running away, so it's okay to take a rest. I'm saying. If the school board or the principal doesn't work at all, I may recommend changing the school. I'm rather reluctant to go to court. Children It is often the case that it is faster for us to find another way if we can take the time there. ”In the future, active intervention like Mr. Abe will be required more and more to resolve the bullying. right. On the other hand, I was also impressed by the words that the problem of bullying in children is a mirror of adult society. If the harmful effects of a competitive society that prioritizes the economy are having a negative impact on children's society, it may be our adult values that should be changed first.
"Did you think you didn't care?" To apologize for bullying in elementary school ... Manga
1/285 sheets